A Day in the Life Coach

Last year I was working with a teenaged boy diagnosed with NLD (Non-verbal Learning Disorder). He came for coaching because he was unmotivated, and having trouble in some subjects at school, in organized sports, and making positive social connections. (And he has enlightened parents who were looking for a positive approach.)

At our first meeting, he seemed somewhat uncomfortable and not very enthusiastic about the whole idea. I’m not sure what he was anticipating because he was pretty uncommunicative at that point, but when he discovered that all I seemed to want was to discover what he liked to do and why, and what he was good at… he started to sit up, take notice and get involved.

You see, he excelled unbelievably in individual sports like skiing, but he took that for granted. Instead he was focused on his lack of success in team sports like football that required an ease with social cues that escaped him because his brain just doesn’t work that way.

He is ‘different’ which meant that he didn’t ‘fit in’ – the high school curse that can set the tone for a life of trying to dispel a feeling of unworthiness.

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It did not take long to see the light of recognition in his eyes! By the second session he was already excited to share what had gone well. He started to feel more inspired at school. He was less worried about social success or lack thereof.

He also soon decided what he wanted to do as a career. He picked something that hardly anyone is really able to do well, and it is something he will absolutely excel at. He is great on his own without feeling cut off. He is amazing at skiing and trekking. He is extremely focused.

And he wants to be a Wilderness First Responder. Thank goodness not everyone fits in!

What if we all knew instinctively, intrinsically, irrevocably… that we don’t have to be perfect to be perfectly fine?

If only we never stopped being the unselfconsciously evolving works in progress that we are when we are babies… until embarrassment, humiliation and the resulting shame start to get in the way.

We all seek love and connection. Even 6-month-olds can tell if the important adults in their lives approve of things they do or not. And we like approval, don’t we?

At some point, it is likely that most children will be or feel judged in a way that makes them embarrassed or inept or doubt themselves. That is often how the seeds of shame are planted and begin to take root. We can start to think – not only that we have done something wrong (which is obviously totally normal, and part of every learning process) but that maybe something is wrong with us – that we are not good enough, not OK… that we always have to do more, or have more, or look better… to be OK… to become worthy of that approval we think we need.

So, so many of my clients want to let go of those kinds of limiting beliefs!
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The ancient Japanese philosophy of Wabi Sabi is a great help! Based on the Buddhist teaching of the three marks of existence, it acknowledges three simple realities: nothing lasts, nothing is finished, and nothing is perfect. The key is to find the beauty in the imperfection, and embrace and value what ‘is’.

When a vase became cracked, they would fill the cracks with gold to celebrate the beauty of its imperfection. We can do this with ourselves. And with our relationships!

Check out Arielle Ford’s book Wabi Sabi Love to see how…

And, if you want to begin to appreciate and embrace your imperfection, you can start here: http://vimeo.com/15735324.

Becoming a grandmother has been the most wonderful, exciting, exhilarating, all encompassing … (not to mention exhausting) experience I have had since… becoming a mother.

As I held that beautiful little bundle in the hospital just after she was born, I had the exact same feeling I had holding my daughter for the first time – total love, total connection.

That was almost a year ago. Now she walks and she talks (a lot – not many actual words, but boy can she make herself understood!)

I spend as much time as possible with ‘my girls’ because I want to be helpful, and because there is absolutely nothing else I would rather be doing! And I have learned so much…

First of all, once again – the importance of living in the NOW! That old adage that the reason being people love being grandparents is that they “get to go home” – that is so not true! I believe it is that we “have to” leave and go home, but the love and connection is so strong that we are always left with the longing… looking forward to the next encounter with the little light worker we are so lucky to have in our lives…
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I often counsel my clients, instead of focusing on what is “wrong” in their lives… to ask themselves “What is the best thing that’s happening right now?”

Perception is reality and our culture trains us to pay attention to what’s wrong with every picture. If we only watched the news every day, we would believe that the world is a pretty terrible place. But, there is a lot more going on, isn’t there?

Ask a baby! They think the world is a pretty exciting place of wonder and ever-possible discovery. They don’t know what they don’t know, and they turn what are constant new challenges automatically into learning opportunities. Easily distracted, they don’t spend (waste) much time thinking about what is probably not possible. And, when they learn to crawl, they don’t feel bad about themselves because they can’t walk.

Hanging around with one of them, it is really easy to see the best thing that is happening now… and to appreciate my reality!